Leadership and professional development: your self-talk matters, part 1
Imagine yourself attempting something new – a new hobby, a new sport, a new assignment, or a new position at work. What’s the first thought that comes to mind? Is it “Oh I will never be good at that” or “I can’t do that”? If it was, you’re not alone. In an article published by Psychology Today, the National Science Foundation found that most people live with excessive negative self-talk. In the study, they identified that people have 60-80,000 thoughts per day and up to 80% of those thoughts are negative. 80% NEGATIVE! While it may be normal to have those negative thoughts, they certainly don’t help you succeed or achieve.
Professional coaching tip: believe in your own success.
Body: Now imagine going into every new situation with confidence, with the thought ‘I’ve got this” or “I will be great at this!”. What difference would that make in your professional leadership? What difference would that make in your stress level, anxiety level, or attitude overall? Which option do you think successful Olympic athletes use during competitions?
The good news: you can train your mind to nullify or deplete negative thinking.
It takes time and effort to build what the Dalai Lama, in the book, The Book of Joy, calls “mental immunity” but it is so life-changing when you do. Start by building your awareness now. To begin this journey towards “mental immunity”, begin by simply:
Noting and writing down any negative thoughts that come to mind.
Make a list of all negative thoughts you have in one week and then review for any patterns or themes.
Ask yourself: do they happen during similar circumstances? When do you NOT have negative thoughts?
Self-awareness is the key that unlocks the door to professional development.
In the coming blogs, we will continue with additional self-talk and professional coaching steps that guide you toward your best self. As always, my mission is to create a positive impact in your life.
Please reach out if I can help you take that next step in your leadership journey.
Here’s to your growth and success!
Lori
Reference: The Book of Joy, His Holiness Dalai Lama, Archibishop Desmund Tutu with Douglas Abrams. National Science Foundation www.nsf.gov